The Real Reason We Married Quickly

My husband and I got married when I was 20 and he was 23. We dated for 10 months, got engaged, and then married 5 months later.

Between our youthful ages and the quickness of it, I think most people assumed we just got married so we could have sex. While that is a wonderful perk of being married, it’s not why we got married so young.

We got married because in the beginning, God created (Genesis 1:1). When he created man, He said it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). So, He created a helper fit for man: a woman. The Hebrew word used there for man is “ish” which means “strength” and the Hebrew word for woman is “ishah” meaning “soft strength.”

Here, we see the two sexes God created to bear His image - male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27). And the man and woman came together naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25) and bore children.

God’s design is perfect. Marriage is a beautiful thing; we believe that if a man and a woman want to be married and can, there aren’t many good reasons to wait.

Perhaps if one or both parties need to mature a bit more or seek further pre-marital counseling before making their vows, that’s understandable. But we find that oftentimes people are putting off marriage for worldly reasons. They are either sinfully testing the waters and living as if they’re married already or waiting in order to throw a better wedding party, have more money in the bank, etc.

We love God’s design for marriage, family, and children. More and more young people are putting off marriage and children and that negatively impacts society. In our case, we didn’t see any good reasons to wait, so we jumped in in faith that the Lord was calling us to marriage. We had no money and that was the number #1 pushback we received.

“Wait until you’re both graduated and have steady jobs.”

You know, that’s fine for some people. If they can honestly live with a clear conscience before God and make that decision in faith (not fear, convenience, or compromise), awesome! But it seems that cultural, peer, and family pressure sways too many young people to wait longer than they should.

We felt confident that if the Lord called us to marriage, He would provide for our every need. And boy, did He ever! Read about it here.